School Has Started. Is Your Teen Still Struggling to Adjust?

The first few weeks of school can be stressful for many students. New peers, new social groups, new teachers, academic expectations, or even a completely new school can take time to adjust to. For some students, the stress may not become noticeable until several weeks into the school year. Changes in mood, increased anxiety, difficulty concentrating, or changes in school performance may be signs that a student is having a harder time adjusting.

There are practical ways parents and caregivers can support students during this transition, including establishing a sustainable routine, strengthening communication skills, encouraging healthy habits, and increasing emotional awareness.

Anxiety and increased stress can develop as students transition from their summer schedules into the demands of the school year, face new academic challenges, and navigate relationships with peers and teachers. These changes can feel intimidating, and the emotional impact does not always appear immediately. Parents and caregivers may experience their own stress during this adjustment period as well. Research suggests that developing self-efficacy—confidence in one’s ability to manage challenges—can help individuals navigate these transitions (McDonald et al., 2024).

So, how can we help students strengthen their confidence and adjust to the school year?

1. Establish a sustainable routine.

It is not too late to create or adjust a routine that works for your family. Consistent routines can help students adapt to everyday expectations within an academic setting. Research supports the value of consistently implemented routines as part of adapting to everyday norms and expectations (Tali Wangge et al., 2025). With continued support at school and at home, students can develop routines that provide greater consistency throughout the school year.

2. Lead by example by identifying and communicating emotions.

Students are continually observing and learning from the people closest to them. Parents and other important adults can model how to identify emotions, communicate needs, manage stress, and use healthy coping skills. Parents who take care of their own emotional needs may also be better equipped to support their children’s mental well-being (Da Paz & Wallander, 2017). Healthy communication, mindful breathing techniques, and de-escalation strategies can help reduce conflict and create opportunities for healthier conversations.

3. Implement boundaries and periods of rest.

Boundaries do not always mean saying “no.” They can also mean recognizing when something needs to change and understanding that we have choices. Including breaks and periods of rest in a student’s routine can support attention, focus, and emotional well-being. Establishing healthy boundaries early in the school year also gives students and families an opportunity to notice what is working and make adjustments when needed.

4. Talk openly about seeking support.

Asking for help can feel intimidating, especially when students are concerned about how others may perceive them. Creating an environment where seeking support is encouraged can make it easier for students to speak up when they are struggling. Mental health concerns should always be taken seriously and addressed promptly. Students can benefit from knowing what resources are available and feeling confident that their parents, caregivers, school professionals, and mental health providers are there to support them.

The first month of school is still a period of adjustment. Students do not need to have everything figured out already. A consistent routine, healthy communication, appropriate boundaries, and access to support can help students strengthen their confidence and develop coping skills they can continue using throughout the school year.

At Calderas Counseling, we work with adolescents and their families as they navigate anxiety, stress, life transitions, and the challenges that can come with different stages of development. If your teen is having a difficult time adjusting to the school year, support is available.

Wishing students and their families a healthy and successful school year!

Calderas Counseling

Written by Franco Lupoli